July 11, 2009
Bashing Men Is A Good Thing?
At work one day I overheard women jabbering away about how clumsy, ungrateful, and sloppy their husbands are. One of the women went into great detail in order to properly express her disgust. The other woman sympathized with the first and did so by sharing her woes of all the wrongs her husband has done to her life. When they saw me come in they welcomed me into their fold and continued the conversation as if I too was okay with the topic.
And I remember wondering why the women were so unabashedly bashing their husbands who weren't even present to defend themselves! I know for a fact that those same men swept them off their feet when they were young and in love.
My mother and father have been married for 34 years and I have never, ever heard my mom bash my dad. Not even to joke. She always uplifts and praises him. Her example makes the idea of putting down husbands really odd and distasteful to me.
So rather than join in on the " husband bashing" I quietly walked away and stayed away. To me, if a woman bashes her husband it tells me more about herself than about the man. It tells me that the woman never understood the role of a woman in marriage, or she has never been a good judge of character. Either way it makes the woman look bad when she bashes the man she agreed to marry.
And I wish I could say that the above scenario is the only time men are put down but its not. Man bashing has become a way of life for countless women in society today. It is everywhere from conversations with friends to TV shows to the movies. The media says that its okay to make men look dumb, sloppy, and undesirable for women to respect. And it has done such a good job of doing this that even the men these days are starting to believe it too.
But why do so many women readily accept this behavior of man bashing? Why is it so wrong to follow men and let them " wear the pants in the house?"
Although media is a strong influencer I think the problem runs much deeper... into the very core of every woman. The desire for control and power. And the Bible tells us this has been the case from the very beginning... from the moment Eve ate the forbidden fruit in order to be like God.
" But the serpent said to the woman, ' You will not die; for God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.' So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate..." ~ Genesis 3: 4-6
It is wrong to put men down simply because of the way they are wired. It is wrong to make fun of men for simply being men. Remember ladies that men are made in the image of God and should be respected. And even though men may seem tough and unscathed by cruel words or bad attitudes the truth is that they are tender inside. Cruel words hurt. Period. Bad attitudes are never appreciated. And putting down your husband is putting down yourself.
" Then the Lord God said to the woman, ' What is this you have done?' The woman said, ' The serpent tricked me, and I ate.'" ~ Genesis 3:13
Eve never took responsibility for her actions. Instead she blamed the serpent for the decision she ultimately made for herself. She chose to believe the serpent. She chose to take the fruit and eat it. Eve did it all by herself.
So ladies, married or not, don't take part in putting down men and making fun of them. Its not cool. Lets stop repeating Eve's mistake in blaming everyone else around us for the mistakes we make and lets guard our tongues. Men are wonderful! Love them! Respect them! Treat your husbands like the best men in the universe and they will live up to it. And for those of us who are still single, what better way to practice being better wives than by watching our thoughts and attitudes towards the opposite sex now!